Learning Process

I was reading my sister-in-law Anna's blog on what she has learned by being a mother and I was thinking what I have learned while being in a relationship with Brad, so I thought I'd share.

1. Communicate.....Express your feelings and don't be afraid of how the other person is going to react. Brad and I are still learning to understand how one another communicates, but this won't happen overnight. Sometime I'll get mad because he is so hard to communicate with or vice versa. We'll learn this together and grow stronger a s a couple.

2. Laugh. Laughter helps avoid arguments or disagreements. Brad has such a great sense of humor. If I get mad at him, he'll make me smile and I'm not mad anymore. He has this power over me....

3. Don't keep secrets. Brad is honest with me and will tell me anything, even if it might be something I don't want to hear. I would rather hear it now than later. When something happens bad or good Brad will tell me right away so that I hear it from him and not someone else. Brad isn't only my husband he's mt best friend, and I tell my best friend everything regardless if its bad or good.

4. Don't stress over the small things. If the house isn't clean and things aren't done, don't freak out. I am the one guilty of this. I am somewhat of a clean freak. But I have realized that those things can wait and eventually they will get done. I have realized when I stress, arguments happen.

5. Keep the friendship alive! Sometimes with busy schedules and routines, it is hard to remember that you are friends. People say keep the romance alive, which is also a great way to a happy marriage, but I think you need to remember that you are friends also. This is one is hard to explain but you just have to learn to be comfortable around each other!

6. Show each other affection. I am big on this. I have no problem giving Brad a kiss or a hug regardless of where we are. By holding his hand in church or holding onto his back pocket when we stand next to each other, he knows I'm right by his side no matter where we go and what we do. Its comforting.

7. We are a Team. Remember to always keep the other person in your best interest. Brad is my number one and he is mine. Everything I do now effects him, because he is my other half. Its hard to adjust to since I was single for so long and so independent.....but I'm learning.

I'm interested.....what have you learned? I could always use advice :)